About Shirley

Shirley Southard is a Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor who focuses on practical help for people dealing with stress, anxiety, addiction, anger, depression, ADHD, relationship and family concerns, trauma, grief, and parenting challenges. She brings two decades of experience and a straightforward approach to sessions. Parents reading on a phone will find short, clear explanations and a calm tone.

Shirley aims to create a warm, nonjudgmental space where clients can talk through what is hard right now.

Background and approach

She listens closely and helps people identify small, doable steps toward change. Sessions are conversational and goal-focused rather than purely academic. Her background includes work across mental health, developmental disability, and substance-use settings.

Shirley has supported people through divorce, single parenting, mood disorders, and addiction. She has also worked with assisted medication management and active military members and their families. Shirley uses tools from cognitive behavioral therapy to help people spot patterns of thought and behavior that keep problems going.

She draws on motivational interviewing to build commitment to change. Mindfulness and client-centered techniques help clients manage strong emotions and stay grounded during hard moments. Her practical focus is on helping people make changes that lead to a better outlook on the future.

Sessions emphasize skills you can try between meetings, with discussion of what worked and what needs adjusting. Shirley speaks English and practices in North Carolina as an LCMHC.

How Shirley blends therapy approaches online

Client-centered therapy focuses on listening and acceptance. The therapist follows the client's lead, responds with empathy, and helps people clarify what they want to change. This approach helps when someone needs a steady, understanding presence while they sort through feelings.

Cognitive behavioral therapy, or CBT, looks at the links between thoughts, feelings, and behavior. It teaches practical exercises to change unhelpful thinking and test new behaviors, which is useful for anxiety, depression, ADHD-related routines, and many everyday problems.

Dialectical behavior therapy, or DBT, teaches skills for managing intense emotions and improving interpersonal effectiveness. Short exercises in emotion regulation and distress tolerance can reduce reactivity and build steadier responses to conflict or stress.

Finding the right mix of approaches is part of the work together. The therapist will talk with the client about goals and preferences, then try techniques that match what the person wants to change. That collaborative process makes adjustments as progress is reviewed.

Online therapy offers practical flexibility. Video calls allow face-to-face conversation and visual cues. Phone sessions work when bandwidth is limited or a quieter check-in is needed. Live chat and text-based messaging suit brief updates, mood check-ins, or people who prefer writing. These options make it easier to fit regular sessions into busy or changing schedules.

Questions people ask

What concerns does Shirley address?
She works with stress, anxiety, addictions, anger, depression, ADHD, relationship and family issues, trauma and grief, parenting, and coping with life changes.
How would you describe her therapy style?
Her style is warm and nonjudgmental with a focus on clear, practical steps. Conversations are collaborative and aim to build skills you can use between sessions.
What is her professional background?
Shirley has about 20 years of experience in human services, including work with mental health, developmental disability, and substance use populations, plus assisted medication management and military-related work.
What credentials does she hold and where does she practice?
She holds a Master’s degree in Counseling and is a Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor (LCMHC) licensed in North Carolina.
In what languages are sessions offered and can international clients connect?
Sessions are offered in English and she accepts international clients.
Which session formats are available?
She meets with clients through video calls, phone sessions, live chat, and text-based messaging to fit different needs and schedules.
How are therapy costs handled?
Cost varies with location and therapist availability; sessions use a subscription that can be canceled at any time.
What should I do to begin working together?
Start by selecting the Start Therapy button, complete a short matching questionnaire, and then schedule sessions according to the therapist's availability.

What this therapist works with

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Experience
20 years
Licensed
North Carolina
Languages
English

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