About Shirley
Shirley Southard is a Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor who focuses on practical help for people dealing with stress, anxiety, addiction, anger, depression, ADHD, relationship and family concerns, trauma, grief, and parenting challenges. She brings two decades of experience and a straightforward approach to sessions. Parents reading on a phone will find short, clear explanations and a calm tone.
Shirley aims to create a warm, nonjudgmental space where clients can talk through what is hard right now.
Background and approach
She listens closely and helps people identify small, doable steps toward change. Sessions are conversational and goal-focused rather than purely academic. Her background includes work across mental health, developmental disability, and substance-use settings.
Shirley has supported people through divorce, single parenting, mood disorders, and addiction. She has also worked with assisted medication management and active military members and their families. Shirley uses tools from cognitive behavioral therapy to help people spot patterns of thought and behavior that keep problems going.
She draws on motivational interviewing to build commitment to change. Mindfulness and client-centered techniques help clients manage strong emotions and stay grounded during hard moments. Her practical focus is on helping people make changes that lead to a better outlook on the future.
Sessions emphasize skills you can try between meetings, with discussion of what worked and what needs adjusting. Shirley speaks English and practices in North Carolina as an LCMHC.
How Shirley blends therapy approaches online
Client-centered therapy focuses on listening and acceptance. The therapist follows the client's lead, responds with empathy, and helps people clarify what they want to change. This approach helps when someone needs a steady, understanding presence while they sort through feelings.Cognitive behavioral therapy, or CBT, looks at the links between thoughts, feelings, and behavior. It teaches practical exercises to change unhelpful thinking and test new behaviors, which is useful for anxiety, depression, ADHD-related routines, and many everyday problems.
Dialectical behavior therapy, or DBT, teaches skills for managing intense emotions and improving interpersonal effectiveness. Short exercises in emotion regulation and distress tolerance can reduce reactivity and build steadier responses to conflict or stress.
Finding the right mix of approaches is part of the work together. The therapist will talk with the client about goals and preferences, then try techniques that match what the person wants to change. That collaborative process makes adjustments as progress is reviewed.
Online therapy offers practical flexibility. Video calls allow face-to-face conversation and visual cues. Phone sessions work when bandwidth is limited or a quieter check-in is needed. Live chat and text-based messaging suit brief updates, mood check-ins, or people who prefer writing. These options make it easier to fit regular sessions into busy or changing schedules.
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What this therapist works with
Most often
- Stress, Anxiety
- Addictions
- Anger management
Also listed
- ADHD
- Aging and geriatric issues
- Antisocial personality
- Communication problems
- Control issues
- Coping with life changes
- Depression
- Domestic violence
- Drug and alcohol addiction
- Family conflicts
- Forgiveness
- Grief
- Guilt and shame
- Impulsivity
- Isolation / loneliness
- Jealousy
- Panic disorder and panic attacks
- Parenting issues
- Post-traumatic stress
- Relationship issues
- Self-harm
- Self-love
- Social anxiety and phobia
- Trauma and abuse
- Veteran and Armed Forces Issues
- Women's issues
Therapeutic approaches
- Experience
- 20 years
- Licensed
- North Carolina
- Languages
- English
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