About Nicole
Nicole Thomte is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) based in Minnesota with 13 years of clinical experience. She uses inclusive, sex-positive language and affirms diverse sexual and gender identities, pronouns she/her or they/them. Nicole focuses on practical support and real-life changes rather than labels, helping clients find the approaches that work for them.
Nicole's style is warm and nonjudgmental. She leans toward an exploratory, client-centered stance and invites humor alongside serious work.
Background and approach
Sessions often involve looking for patterns, trying small experiments, and setting straightforward goals together. Her background includes years of community and agency work that centered people facing high barriers to care. Early roles included group facilitation with survivors of gender-based violence and supporting people with multiple health and social challenges.
Those experiences shaped a practice grounded in advocacy and cultural awareness. Nicole offers affirmative support for people from LGBTQIA+ communities and those involved in kink, polyamory, consensual non-monogamy, or alternative sexuality cultures. She also addresses concerns such as anxiety, depression, ADHD, trauma, grief, relationship and intimacy issues, and work-related stress.
In sessions she may draw on client-centered conversation, cognitive behavioral techniques, solution-focused planning, motivational interviewing, and skills from dialectical behavior therapy. The goal is simple: help people manage symptoms, clarify values, and make changes that fit their life and identity. Nicole welcomes clear, direct conversation about goals and prefers collaborative planning.
Her approach aims to respect each person's experience while offering practical tools for moving forward.
Therapeutic approaches and flexible online care
Client-centered therapy focuses on listening and following what matters most to the person in front of the therapist. It helps when people want support in making their own choices and being heard without judgment. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, or CBT, looks at how thoughts and behaviors interact and teaches practical skills to reduce anxiety, depression, and unhelpful habits. Dialectical Behavior Therapy, DBT, emphasizes emotion regulation, distress tolerance, and improving communication skills when feelings run high.Finding the right approach is part of the work. Nicole collaborates with each person to match methods to their goals, values, and daily life. Together they try tools, track what helps, and adjust the plan when needed rather than sticking to one fixed method.
Online sessions are offered by video call, phone, live chat, or text-based messaging to make therapy fit daily life. Video allows face-to-face conversation, phone needs less bandwidth, live chat works for short check-ins, and messaging supports ongoing reflection between sessions. These options make it easier to keep appointments around work, caregiving, or other commitments while using the approaches above in ways that suit each client.
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What this therapist works with
Most often
- Stress, Anxiety
- LGBT
- Relationship issues
Also listed
- ADHD
- Anger management
- BDSM, kink, and alternative sex culture
- Bipolar disorder
- Career difficulties
- Chronic pain, illness, and disability
- Communication problems
- Compassion fatigue
- Coping with life changes
- Depression
- Family conflicts
- Gender dysphoria
- Grief
- Intimacy-related issues
- Mood disorders
- Multicultural concerns
- Panic disorder and panic attacks
- Phobias
- Polyamory / non-monogamous relationships
- Prejudice and discrimination
- Self esteem
- Sexuality
- Trauma and abuse
- Women's issues
Therapeutic approaches
- Experience
- 13 years
- Licensed
- Minnesota
- Languages
- English
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