About Lani
Lani Stoner is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with 27 years of clinical experience. She works with people facing stress, anxiety, depression, grief, trauma, relationship struggles and ADHD. Her manner is direct and practical, focused on helping clients find ways to feel better and function more easily in daily life.
She trained in Counseling Psychology and holds a Master of Arts degree. Over decades in public and personal settings she has supported adults, children, and older adults in individual, couples, and group formats.
Background and approach
Much of her background includes work with chronic mental illness and people coping with long-term symptoms. Lani generally uses time-limited approaches but has also worked longer with people who need ongoing support. She prefers an active, directive style that gives clear steps for change.
Sessions often include goal setting, skill practice, and discussion of what is getting in the way of progress. She combines client-centered listening with cognitive behavioral and mindfulness strategies to address thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. Narrative and solution-focused ideas help clients reframe problems and find practical next steps.
This mix is used to support issues like coping with life changes, parenting strain, sleep problems, addiction concerns, and compassion fatigue. Clients may find her helpful when facing career stress, intimacy challenges, bipolar mood concerns, or family-of-origin issues. Lani offers online options such as video, phone, chat, and text to make scheduling easier.
She practices in California and provides services in English.
How practical therapy methods translate to online care
Client-Centered Therapy focuses on listening and building a trusting relationship while helping people find their own solutions; it is useful for grief, relationship strain, and self-esteem concerns. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) looks at thoughts and behaviors and teaches clear skills for managing anxiety, depression, sleep problems, and ADHD-related challenges. Mindfulness Therapy teaches attention and present-moment awareness to reduce stress and improve focus during daily life.Choosing the right approach is a collaborative process. The therapist will talk with each person about their goals, try approaches that fit those goals, and adjust methods based on what helps most. This means working together to pick techniques that suit the client's needs and preferences rather than relying on a single style.
Online sessions make regular care easier to maintain. Video calls work well for face-to-face conversation and skill demonstrations, phone sessions can fit into a short break or when bandwidth is limited, and live chat or text messaging offer quick check-ins or written reflections between sessions. These options increase flexibility for busy schedules and different comfort levels with technology.
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What this therapist works with
Most often
- Stress, Anxiety
- Relationship issues
- Grief
Also listed
- Addictions
- ADHD
- Aging and geriatric issues
- Anger management
- Bipolar disorder
- Blended family issues
- Cancer
- Career difficulties
- Caregiver issues and stress
- Chronic pain, illness, and disability
- Co-morbidity
- Communication problems
- Compassion fatigue
- Coping with life changes
- Coping with natural or human-caused disaster
- Depression
- Disruptive Mood Dysregulation Disorder (DMDD)
- Dissociation
- Divorce and separation
- Emptiness
- Family conflicts
- Family of origin issues
- Family problems
- Fertility issues
- First responder issues
- Forgiveness
- Guilt and shame
- HIV / AIDS
- Hospice and end-of-life counseling
- Infidelity
- Intimacy-related issues
- Isolation / loneliness
- LGBT
- Life purpose
- Midlife crisis
- Mood disorders
- Multicultural concerns
- Obsessions, compulsions, and OCD
- Panic disorder and panic attacks
- Parenting issues
- Phobias
- Post-traumatic stress
- Postpartum depression
- Pregnancy and childbirth
- Prejudice and discrimination
- Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)
- Self esteem
- Self-harm
- Self-love
- Sleeping disorders
- Social anxiety and phobia
- Trauma and abuse
- Traumatic brain injury
- Veteran and Armed Forces Issues
- Women's issues
- Workplace issues
- Young adult issues
Therapeutic approaches
- Experience
- 27 years
- Licensed
- California
- Languages
- English
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