About John
John Alilovich is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) practicing in California with four decades of clinical work. He brings long-term experience from both county mental health and independent practice settings. John aims to create a warm, respectful space where clients can be heard and understood.
He focuses on practical, real-world goals you can use day to day. John spent many years in county mental health, working on addiction, domestic violence, relationship struggles, parenting concerns, and support for LGBT people.
Background and approach
That public-sector work runs alongside an ongoing independent practice that totals about 40 years of clinical experience. He draws on this background when helping people manage stress, grief, mood concerns, and life transitions. His approach is collaborative and person-centered.
He starts by listening and learning what matters to each person. From there he and the client set clear, doable goals and try methods that fit the client's life and preferences. He describes his style as warm, personal, and respectful.
Techniques he commonly uses include cognitive behavioral strategies, mindfulness, and emotion-focused ideas to help with thoughts, reactions, and relationships. Attachment-based thinking also informs how he looks at connection and trust issues. He tailors methods to fit each person's needs rather than sticking to one fixed model.
People often come with anxiety, ADHD concerns, depression, grief, parenting questions, or relationship and intimacy problems. John offers a steady, experienced presence to help people sort priorities, learn coping skills, and make changes that feel manageable.
Approaches that guide online sessions
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, or ACT, helps people notice difficult thoughts and feelings without getting stuck in them and then move toward actions that match their values. It can be useful for anxiety, depression, and life changes. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, or CBT, focuses on identifying unhelpful thinking and testing new behaviors to change mood and functioning; it often helps with anxiety, depression, and sleep difficulties. Attachment-Based Therapy looks at how early and current relationships shape expectations and reactions, which can help with intimacy, trust, and family patterns.Choosing the right approach is a collaborative process. The therapist listens to your concerns and goals, explains options, and tries methods that fit your needs and preferences. Together you can adapt techniques over time until you find what works best for you.
Online therapy formats include video calls, phone sessions, live chat, and text-based messaging. Video calls allow face-to-face conversation and shared visual cues. Phone sessions can be easier when a quieter space or lower bandwidth is needed. Live chat and text messaging work well for brief check-ins, ongoing coaching, or when typed communication feels more comfortable. These options make it simpler to fit therapy into work, school, or caregiving schedules and to stay connected when travel or distance is a factor.
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What this therapist works with
Most often
- Relationship issues
- Trauma and abuse
- Intimacy-related issues
Also listed
- Abandonment
- Addictions
- ADHD
- Adoption and foster care
- Anger management
- Attachment issues
- Autism and Asperger Syndrome
- Bipolar disorder
- Blended family issues
- Career difficulties
- Coaching
- Codependency
- Compassion fatigue
- Coping with life changes
- Depression
- Divorce and separation
- Eating disorders
- Family conflicts
- Family of origin issues
- Family problems
- Fatherhood issues
- Forgiveness
- Grief
- Infidelity
- Intellectual disability
- Jealousy
- LGBT
- Life purpose
- Men's issues
- Midlife crisis
- Mood disorders
- Obsessions, compulsions, and OCD
- Parenting issues
- Personality disorders
- Phobias
- Postpartum depression
- Process addiction (porn, exercise, gambling)
- Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)
- Self esteem
- Self-harm
- Self-love
- Sex addiction
- Sexual dysfunction
- Sexuality
- Sleeping disorders
- Stress, Anxiety
- Workplace issues
- Young adult issues
Therapeutic approaches
- Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)
- Attachment-Based Therapy
- Client-Centered Therapy
- Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
- Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT)
- Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT)
- Existential Therapy
- Mindfulness Therapy
- Psychodynamic Therapy
- Somatic Therapy
- Trauma-Focused Therapy
- Internal Family Systems
- Experience
- 40 years
- Licensed
- California
- Languages
- English
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