About Barry
Barry Plumlee is a licensed marriage and family therapist with more than 21 years of professional practice. He works with people facing stress, anxiety, ADHD, depression, addiction, and grief. He also supports those coping with trauma, parenting strains, sleep problems, anger, and changes in life circumstances.
Barry uses a straightforward, compassionate approach. Sessions focus on what the person needs right now. He listens first, then helps set practical steps to try between meetings.
Background and approach
He aims to make therapy feel useful and manageable for busy lives. His background includes long experience in community mental health and work with child and adult-related concerns. That time shaped a practical style that blends talk and action.
He draws on several approaches to fit what each person prefers and responds to. In sessions he helps people build coping skills, improve communication, and sort out patterns that get in the way. He often uses goal-focused strategies alongside deeper exploration of long-standing issues.
The pace and focus are set together, so people leave with clear next steps. Barry keeps evening hours and Sunday afternoons, making it easier to schedule outside regular work times. He holds Missouri licensure as an LMFT and Kansas licensure as an LCMFT, and conducts sessions in English.
Therapeutic approaches and how they work online
Client-Centered Therapy focuses on listening and reflecting what a person says so they feel heard and understood. It helps with self-esteem, coping with life changes, and making personal decisions by centering the client's experience.Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, or CBT, looks at how thoughts, feelings, and behaviors interact. It teaches concrete strategies to reduce anxiety, improve sleep, and manage mood by practicing new coping skills between sessions.
Motivational Interviewing is a brief, goal-focused method that helps people find their own reasons to change. It is often useful for substance use concerns, ambivalence about treatment, and building motivation for behavioral steps.
Finding the right mix of approaches is part of the work. The therapist collaborates with each person to select methods that match their goals, preferences, and life demands. That plan can change as progress is made and needs shift.
Online formats include video calls, phone sessions, live chat, and text-based messaging. Video is well suited for full sessions and face-to-face interaction. Phone calls can be a helpful low-bandwidth option or a shorter check-in. Live chat and text messaging work for quick updates, brief coaching, or when someone prefers not to be on camera. These options make scheduling easier for people with busy schedules or evening and weekend needs.
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What this therapist works with
Most often
- Stress, Anxiety
- Family conflicts
- Trauma and abuse
Also listed
- Addictions
- ADHD
- Adoption and foster care
- Anger management
- Autism and Asperger Syndrome
- Bipolar disorder
- Blended family issues
- Co-morbidity
- Codependency
- Communication problems
- Compassion fatigue
- Coping with life changes
- Coping with natural or human-caused disaster
- Depression
- Disruptive Mood Dysregulation Disorder (DMDD)
- Dissociation
- Domestic violence
- Drug and alcohol addiction
- Family of origin issues
- Family problems
- Fatherhood issues
- First responder issues
- Forgiveness
- Grief
- Guilt and shame
- Hearing impaired
- Impulsivity
- Mood disorders
- Obsessions, compulsions, and OCD
- Panic disorder and panic attacks
- Parenting issues
- Post-traumatic stress
- Relationship issues
- Self esteem
- Self-harm
- Sexual assault and abuse
- Sleeping disorders
- Social anxiety and phobia
- Young adult issues
Therapeutic approaches
- Experience
- 21 years
- Licensed
- Oklahoma, Missouri, Kansas
- Languages
- English
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